Sunday, November 27, 2011

So... I pretty much feel like a total selfish dick most of the time. A lot of times I go ahead and do the non dickish thing, but I always really want to do the dickish thing.

This time? I really didn't want to go to the new husband's house for Thanksgiving. I guess a lot of people will alternate which place they go to every year if one or more of the families lives out of town. But... I guess I'm weird, I'd rather just stay in town every year and see my family, and have Jeremy go out of town to see his family every year. I have absolutely nothing against them, either, they are nice people. People seem to think it's weird to want to just hang out with your own family every year, Jeremy's mom was especially put out when she thought I was going to do that. I'm not sure why--she would get to see her son twice instead of me once and him once. And I do visit their house on non holiday occasions, and hung out with them in town the one time Jeremy guilted them into visiting us instead of vice versa. I don't feel that bad not seeing Jeremy on the actual holiday, as we can hang out beforehand, afterwards, and basically all the time, because that is the way we are.

So here's why I just didn't want to:

--I hate the 2 hour drive
--I hate sleeping in a strange bed
--The room they put us in has no door, and they get up and start making noise around 5 or 6 a.m. Often times they get annoyed with us if we try to stay in too long anyway, I guess they don't understand non-morning people.
--I hate talking to strangers. And there were going to be a bunch of cousins and aunts & uncles and stuff there I didn't know. And time with friends of Jeremy, who I know a little bit better, but not that much.
--I like my alone time.... I love Jeremy but we spend ALL our time together. Once in awhile I like to be alone.
--I just wanted to relax and do that much... that 4 day break for Thanksgiving? About the longest break I've gotten since I don't go to school anymore. You have vacation days, of course, but most of them are filled with activities and traveling, which is a lot of work.

But... my dad's shoulder was hurt, so he didn't want to cook thanksgiving turkey like he usually does. So we were going to add in his girlfriend and my sister--who both have other things actually going on actual thanksgiving. Due to the delayed thanksgiving, I went to actual thanksgiving at Jeremy's parents. Anyway, it actually turned out pretty well, and wasn't annoying as I thought it would be. So I guess it's going to be an every year thing now, because my family liked being able to get together too (previously, my sis had troubles, as her husband's two families also do it on the day and 3 were too many for her, and I know dad's girlfriend likes being involved).